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Resilience conversations

There are six areas in our lives where we can promote resilience; feeling secure, friendships, talents and interests, education, emotions and behaviours and health. If a person is having significant difficulty in one or more of these areas it can make it more difficult for them to manage during tough times. The good news is that there are many things that can be done to strengthen these areas too, increasing a person’s ability to ‘bounce back’ during difficult times. Theses tools have been developed by the HeadStart Kent programme to assess a young person’s resilience, a Self-Reflection tool and a Resilience Conversation tool complete with guidance notes. There is also a short film that demonstrates how to use the resilience conversation tool (previously known as the domains based conversation).

These tools have been tried and tested by the school and community workforces and have proven to be a successful and effective way of talking to young people about their all round wellbeing and plan changes and improvements with young people to promote and increase their resilience.

Resilience Conversation Tools

The Resilience Conversation Tool has been designed for use to enable a more in-depth conversation. Using the wheel diagram, young people will consider the areas of resilience, with consideration for themselves, their family, significant others and the wider community.

The Resilience Conversation is a tool to help you have confident and strength focussed conversations with young people. If you have the option of choosing when to have a conversation with a young person, think of who is best to have this conversation and think of your environment. Guidance on how to use the tool and the tool itself are available to download below.

Self-Reflection Tools

The Self-Reflection tool has been designed to encourage young people to think about their own areas of resilience, and to guide school staff and practitioners as to which young people may benefit from a conversation about building resilience. The Self-Reflection tool consists of a range of questions, for which young people can respond, Usually, Sometimes, Rarely and Not Sure.

This tool can be used at any time during the school day. Schools that have used the self-reflection have said that it can work well during form time – with the whole form completing a self-assessment at the start and beginning of term, enabling tutors to see how a student is progressing, and then where required a follow up conversation with the young person should take place. Additionally, schools have used this as a tool to help the young person collect their thoughts following an incident, and then to assist the staff member to identify through a conversation with the young person if there is something else contributing to behaviours being displayed in school.

Young people self-reflection check sheets

How to have a Resilience Conversation (previously known as Domains Conversation)

This short film demonstrates how to identify a person in need of a resilience conversation and how to use the tool.